The Parenting Juggle is Real!
The juggle is SO real! As women and mothers, not only do we physically juggle so many things each day but we also constantly *mentally* juggle 𝘈𝘓𝘓 of the things that most people around us don’t actually see.
Sometimes it’s that mental juggling that becomes harder to manage for me. I will complete most tasks on my “to do” list in a day but my mind is still racing with the “𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘪𝘧𝘴” and “𝘴𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥𝘢, 𝘸𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥𝘢, 𝘤𝘰𝘶𝘭𝘥𝘢𝘴“.
When it starts to feel like one of the metaphorical balls I’m keeping in the air is about to drop, I do my best to set them down - into one of three buckets to be exact. I get a piece of paper and do a mental dump of all of the things on my mind. Then, I categorize each item into one of the following three groups:
1. Not in my control
2. I’ve done all that I can
3. I will deal with this, at another time
Typically, just having everything out of my mind and on a piece of paper creates a huge shift of energy that allows me to be more intentional and productive with my time. On days when that’s not enough, I like to whittle down that last category and make a specific timeline of what I mean by “another time”.
Sometimes, we can feel like we need to get all of the things done RIGHT NOW and since that’s not possible, we end up doing a several things half way - and that ends up creating more stress! Instead, breaking that list of tasks down and assigning them specific days on the calendar allows me to put things on a mental shelf and truly focus my efforts on one thing at a time.
𝘞𝘩𝘦𝘯 𝘪𝘵 𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘳𝘵𝘴 𝘵𝘰 𝘧𝘦𝘦𝘭 𝘭𝘪𝘬𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶’𝘳𝘦 𝘫𝘶𝘨𝘨𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰𝘰 𝘮𝘶𝘤𝘩, 𝘸𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘪𝘴 𝘰𝘯𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘥𝘰 𝘵𝘰 𝘩𝘦𝘭𝘱 𝘬𝘦𝘦𝘱 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘴𝘦𝘭𝘧 𝘧𝘳𝘰𝘮 𝘴𝘵𝘶𝘮𝘣𝘭𝘪𝘯𝘨?